Why Neither Behaving Like A Jerk Nor Acting Like A Nice Guy Will Attract Women

Story And Question From A Reader...

"Hi dude,

I have to tell you, your book has astounded me. Since I got divorced 2 1/2 years ago, I've had one date, with a girl who told me that she used to weigh 300 pounds before her tummy tuck surgery, and that her father was the head of the Iranian Mafia here in Oklahoma (I shit you not)

In other words, I've been a total chump with women. Then I read your book at 3am Saturday night, and then went to a bridal show the next day. I used one of your push-pull technique with some guy's girlfriend, and she kept hanging out with me, bringing me chocolate-covered strawberries, etc. until her boyfriend got pissed and led her away. Later that night we all went to dinner and I ended up sitting next to a smoking runway model from the fashion show. I used your techniques again, and had her laughing at my jokes, touching my arm and leg, eating off my plate, feeding me her food, etc. I even ordered her to pay me 10 cents for the French fry she stole, and she immediately dug into her purse and gave me a quarter. I went home feeling like superman. This chick was 24 years old, thin, gorgeous. I'm a 30 year old, 245 lb., glasses-wearing dude who lives in a one room apartment.

I was saying really nice things to these chicks, compliments that I never would have said before because I was afraid of being "too nice." Then I'd turn around and say something to completely undermine the compliment. I never would have done this before in fear that I'd look like a jerk.

One of my friends was there, a nerdy looking, effeminate computer geek who seems to have a new hot girlfriend every week.

I watched him talk to a girl, and he was very animated and had a big smile on his face as he talked to her, but he had his arms crossed and his body turned away from her. Just like in the book. Then he changed to an open posture. Then back.

I tell you, your book has explained every damned question I've ever had about women, about friends who where good with girls, and about my own lameness. Thank you so much. It's almost scary to think of how good I'm going to be when I've re-read the book several times and mastered the techniques. I read it again today and saw several more things that I could have done even better."

I from Oklahoma

Big round of applause for you bro. I can tell you're starting to understand the ins-and-outs of making women tick.

"I even ordered her to pay me 10 cents for the French fry she stole, and she immediately dug into her purse and give me a quarter. I went home feeling like superman."

Great stuff man. Love it. Hilarious. This also reinforced to her that you're a Prize she has to earn.

Many male-female interactions go down like this: Boy meets girl. Girl is charmed by Boy. Boy poops his pants in excitement that
girl likes him and, then, starts acting like a dilapidated ejaculate.

Not you. You kept going, reinforcing to her that you were the Prize and if she wanted you, well, she'd have to work for it.

"I was saying really nice things to these chicks, compliments that I never would have said before because I was afraid of being 'too nice.' Then I'd turn around and say something to completely undermine the compliment. I never would have done this before in fear that I'd look like a jerk."

Amen brother! You get it. Too many people are still stuck in the nice guy/jerk paradigm. Some think you have to act like a nice guy to attract women.

Others think you have to behave like a jerk. Acting like a nice guy or a jerk, however, has nothing to do with attracting women.

Those not understanding the underlying mechanisms of generating attraction might misinterpret playful banter and effective flirting as mistreating a woman.

But generating attraction in women is neither nice nor mean.

How you use the attraction you've generated, however, has moral implications.

My point - generating attraction in women, in and of itself, will
make you neither a nice guy nor a jerk.

"I tell you, your book has explained every damned question I've ever had about women, about friends who where good with girls, and about my own lameness. Thank you so much. It's almost scary to think of how good I'm going to be when I've re-read the book several times and mastered the techniques. I read it again today and saw several more things that I could have done even better."

I don't doubt for a second that you'll become amazing with women. You get it. Once again, good job.

Comment From A Reader

"I like the e-book so far. I just want to mention that your explanation of meta-frames and how to be "the prize" is worth the price of the book alone.

This one hottie who was into me thought she'd throw in, "Oh, my friend here, yeah, she's my girlfriend, sorry," to which I replied, "Good, she can cook us breakfast in bed in the morning," She almost died of laughter, attraction exploded and she was puddy in my hands. So powerful. Love it. Just thought I'd let you know."

J from Denver

Glad you're getting a lot of use out of that line. This girl thought she'd throw you a curve ball and you threw it right back at her, establishing and maintaining that you're the Prize. Nice.

Question From From Reader

"There is this girl I've fancied for ages and she also has two hot sisters and a friend! After reading some of your newsletters, I have put some of your strategies into action.

Instead of gettin the girl I fancy to feel attraction for me. I managed to get all four girls to feel huge attraction to me! How good is that? By asking open questions to one girl and flirting with one of the girls, I managed to get all the girls into competitive mode and succeeded in getting all of these girls
to feel hugely attracted to me!

However, what do I do if the really really hot girl will not go out with me, because all the other girls also fancy and feel attracted to me?

If you could answer this question, then I would be more than grateful!

Thanks for your advice"

K from Scotland

You little pimp, you - good job!

"By asking open questions to one girl and flirting with one of the girls, I managed to get all the girls into competitive mode and succeeded in getting all of these girls to feel hugely attracted to me!"

Ah yes...the power of social proof. I should do a whole newsletter just on this topic.

"...what do I do if the really really hot girl will not go out with me, because all the other girls also fancy and feel attracted to me?"

Her friends wanting you can only increase your chances with the hot girl.

I think Chris Rock put it best when he said: "When a man introduces his new girlfriend to his friend, when they walk away, his friend is like 'Wow, she's nice. I gotta get me a girl like that.' When a woman introduces her new man to her girlfriend, when they walk away, her girlfriend is like 'I gotta get me him! And I'll slit that bitch's throat to do it!'"

Question From A Reader

"Hello Swinggcat,

I just signed up for your newsletter. I'm working on the tension loop exercise, and I've seemed to hit a wall more or less. The example you gave was great, and I came up with two of my own.

Accuse a woman of not being able to dance, and if she responds that she can say, "Well let's go" (onto the dance floor)

Opportunity to get a dance, tease her and NOT grind all over her like she probably thinks you will. After one or two songs, end the dance and say..."Hmmm, you proved me wrong. You get an A for effort...but really, you do need to work on a few steps"

2nd one - "I don't know about you...I like a woman that can cook..." She responds that she can, etc etc ..

Respond with..."oh yeah, so what's your specialty?"If she responds by telling you her specialty say, "maybe you do have some cooking skills...but can you clean too?"

Can you let me know if these are on target or not? I'm having a hard time thinking of other subjects to create tension loops out of. Thanks.

Oh...I'll be purchasing your course this Friday (payday)

Thanks"

M from Maryland

Just for a review: a tension loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again.

This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

Your first example of a tension loop isn't bad. I like it. I might try: "Wow, you're more adventurous than I thought. You get an A- and...you have permission to take me out dancing sometime."

Read what I just wrote a few times. There's a lot of power psychology in there.

I published something very similar to your second example a few years back. So, of course, I like it.

You might want to make it a bit stronger by asking her what her specialty is and if it really is something you like say: "Mm...I love that. You have permission to cook it for me."

On another note: I'm proud of you man. You're focusing on something really important for succeeding with women...

Triggering attraction in women through sexual tension and arousal instead of material possessions like looks and money.

I can vividly remember back when I wasn't satisfied with my dating life.

I remember times when I thought I was totally in with a girl: we were talking and laughing.

But then one of my better looking friends swooped in, said maybe two words to the girl, and she was finished with me and all over him. This frustrated me to death.

What I didn't know then - and most men will go to their graves never knowing - is that you don't need looks or money to trigger attraction in women.

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