What To Do When A Woman Tells You That Your Too Old Or Too Young For Her

Question From A Reader:

Hey Swingcat...

I was out last night at a very trendy bar in Cape Town with some friends... It was filled with internationals and models alike and the avg was 8+ it was CRAZY!. Game on i thought! I approached a couple of girls and managed to get 2 phone numbers... things were going really well... but as soon as one of the girls asked my age (22) she being 26... it was like she carried out the rest of the convo just to be polite!

I picked up on this and tried to recover a little without seeming like i was seeking approval... and punched out to get back to my mates. it turns out the last guy she was seeing was also 22 but was a serious cheapskate, like couldn’t pay for his dinner amongst other things...

but in general how does one go around getting past that mentality...or manage it so that she sees u as fun, adventurous rather than switching off and being "too young"... hmmm... should one lie and say you're older... ive always dated older women and its been great... i prefer them... but still face a lot of difficulty getting round that age gap...

ANY IDEAS...

Regards

Castro
Cape Town

My response:

Here’s a nightmare and a half many a man has endured while wading through the single scene trenches…

He starts a sexually charged conversation with a woman. Sparks are flying. Love – or at least lust – is in the air.

Then kah-pow… her warm heart turns to fugly black. She pulls her eyebrows together folding worry lines between her eyes and, like a trained General, interrogates him with, “How old are you?”

He responds and she K.O. punches his self-esteem with, “Um… yeah… you’re too old (or too young) for me. This just isn’t gonna work out. I don’t go for guys your age.”

Time comes to a screeching halt. Every clock holds its breath long enough for him to reflect on what a loser he is.

Swilling a bottle of Wild Turkey whisky, snorting a line of bugar sugar, or shoving a dozen anti-depressant pills down his throat would do zilch for returning his ego back to normal size.

Most emails I receive in regards to age are about women objecting to a guy being too old.

But your email tickled me because when I was younger, I used to have the same problem…

Women were always push-pulling me and playing tug-a-war with my heart by spewing the words: You’re so cute… you remind me of my little brother (or youngest son).

However, the pendulum now swings the other way. Some of the women I date are well over a decade younger than I am.

So I’ve had to deal with the age issue on both ends of the spectrum.

I’m going to teach you a way to quickly turn the age objection into attraction within 30 seconds.

But in order for you to understand this secret, I need to teach you a key piece to female psychology first.

As you’ll understand in a minute, age is not that important for us guys.

But if you’re a woman, it’s a different story. Just to set the record straight, I personally find many older women attractive.

Albeit, that’s not the way our culture is set up. For females, their age and looks are fused together.

You know why it’s considered bad etiquette to flat-out ask a woman her age? You know why many men probe a woman about her age with the same caution they use to test the pool water with their big toe before jumping in?

Because women are insecure about their age. Every time they look into the mirror, they see the big hand on the age-clock tick tick ticking around and around on their mug.

And rightfully so…

They don’t have to use their Scooby sense to know that their bar-equity starts plummeting after the ripe age of 22.

Think of how many older female sex symbols there are. Not many. Even worse, when looking at an aged female sex symbol, most people think: “She’s really beautiful… for an older woman. She must’ve been a knockout when she was young.”

This is completely unfair to women. But it is the harsh reality.

On the other hand, male sex symbols ages rang from very young to ancient.

The media has deemed guys like Hayden Christensen, Jake Gyllenhaal, and Justin Timberlake female eye candy. All of whom are under 30.

Likewise, pop culture abounds with aged studs. Take Brad Pitt and George Clooney. Both hover over 40. Yet both have won People’s Sexiest Man Of The Year in the last few years.

Sean Connery is a senior citizen, for God’s sake. Yet he’s still considered one of the sexiest men alive and puts the jumbo in many a woman’s mojo.

Furthermore, most women don’t think these guys are sexy for older men. Instead, they think these guys are hot.

So remember: When it comes to the age card, nine out ten times you’ll have the high ground over a woman.

In every interaction you have with a woman, there’s a subtext or underlying meaning. That’s what I call the Meta-Frame. It either gets defined as you being the Prize she’s trying to win over or visa versa.

Not surprisingly… when a woman makes your age an issue and it affects you, she becomes the Prize you’re trying to win over.

Alas, women feel zero attraction for men trying to win them over.

But here’s something you may not know…

When a woman makes your age an issue, it’s a sign that she’s very conscious of her age – even more than most women. In other words, her age is probably a bigger issue for her than your age.

Okay… so here’s the secret for handling the age issue in a way that makes you the Prize the woman is trying to win over. (This is mental jujitsu at its best.)

Imagine you’re talking to a woman who popped out of her mommies vajayjay in 1982.

Out of nowhere, she starts busting your balls about your age.

Quip back with, “Well, you’re way too old for me. You’re like 97 in girl years.”

She’ll ask, “Why am I 97 in girl years?”

Educate her with, “If you look at models, they hit their peak around 17 or 18. By the time their 21, they’re past their prime. By 23 they’re old hags. You, my dear, are ancient. I’m surprised you can still manage without a walker.”

She’ll probably start giggling uncontrollably. This is the laugh of recognition. In a playful way you’ve called her on her own insecurity.

Because this demonstrates that you understand her, it puts her at ease around you. It builds comfort and rapport.

Plus, the combination of you finger-pointing out her insecurity with a joke and her fessing-up with a laugh sets the Meta-Frame that you’re the Prize she’s trying to win over.

The fusion of Prizability, comfort, and sexual arousal sparks that magical feeling called “attraction.”

If you execute this secret correctly, you’ll trigger attraction inside her.

But if you don’t have the skills and knowledge to keep that attraction alive and take it in the direction you choose, it will wither away. Dwindle to a suicidal gloom.

And in all honesty, without the skills to trigger attraction in women at your will, you're no better off than Joe Schmo.

Most average men inadvertantly trigger attraction in women. It may be their looks or something they said. But because they don't know what they did to spark attraction in a woman, they cannot trigger it at will.

That's why they can't attract the women of their choice. Why the attraction in their current relationships usually peters out. Why they have second-hand, hand-me-down sex lives.

Take a few moments think about what it would be like to have the power to trigger attraction in the women of your choice without looks or money. How would that change your sex life? How would your sex life be different from the average man?

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